Eckhart Tolle tells a story in A New Earth about a woman who came to him with a multitude of life's problems and the unhappiness that plagued her. After listing the reasons why she was so unhappy Eckhart asked her if could she be okay with being unhappy? This enraged her. NO of course she's not okay with it. Thus adding another layer of unhappiness. Having Ulcerative Colitis it is a challenge for me (as it is for all suffering from a chronic illness) to not fall into the pit of despair. But, this story illustrated for me the layers [...]
Rarely do we ever regret choosing to let go. We have all ignored the feeling to let go of things that we had really wanted to work. Much time and energy go into tweaking circumstances hoping they will bring about the outcome we want. We spend wakeless nights grinding over what next to try, adjusting minor details hoping it aligns with the wishes of the Universe so that it will bring about our desire. Being self-aware and practicing presence keeps us in tune with familiar negative feelings and emotions. The feelings are used as a trigger. "Hold up! I've felt [...]
We had a fabulous lesson in tolerance this weekend. Learning how to control our reaction and emotions in uncontrollable circumstances is not easy. But it does get easier when we practice using the formula Event + Reaction = Outcome. We learn that we have control over how we feel and react to negative situations. Knowing that we have three options helps too. We can change the situation, leave it or accept it.
You're unhappy and feeling out of control of your life. Nothing ever seems to go your way and you are seeing the same negative patterns with your job, relationships, and health. Some days are better than others, but you fall into slumps and the feeling of hopelessness just washes over you. Every day is the same and besides little bursts of excitement, the drab of reality is just painful. Life feels insane and out of your control. Everything is an uphill battle. Why is this happening? Are we just meant to go through life in this comatose like daze? No. [...]
Let's talk about Love. Love is my home base. It's where I gain my inspiration from and it's where I go back to when I need answers. So, what do you love? Not who, but what? Think of things you love enough that when you think of it do you feel that squishy warm love feeling inside? For example; I have a beautiful pair of Louboutin ankle boots hanging on my vision board in front of me right now. Every time I sit and stare at them I get an internal squeal of joy that goes through my body and [...]